Saturday, October 9, 2010

Emotion Garbage Dumping

Emotional garbage dumping is what your spouse does to you when he or she doesn't actually want to cope and process his or her feelings, just vent. Venting is OK sometimes, but often it is just a way people use to avoid thinking.

Getting tired of being an emotional dumping ground.

Some of us gravitate toward being problem solvers. We look for ways to process the garbage, manage it, recycle or renew it.

Problem solving gets us into trouble with our spouses, because we're expected to sit quietly as it rises around us. We inspire anger and bitterness by trying to help.

In garbage dumping, you are used, the intellectual equivalent of a vibrator. Please don't ask me to listen if you aren't interested in hearing my thoughts.

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